Let’s talk about nudity. Some of us are fine with it, others can’t bear to go from their bathroom to their bedroom without wearing something to cover up their skin.
I believe that one of the most important pieces of self love is creating a better relationship with your body. And what better way to do that than spending more time with yourself, naked.
Nudity has always been a part of my life. As a child I would spend lots of time running around the backyard sans clothing. I got sun on all my places and didn’t have a care in the world.
This ritual stayed with me in my early twenties when I finally had an apartment to myself. I would spend hours at home in the nude with the warm sun shining on me through the windows. It was my real me time. Music would play, I would dance, snuggle with my cat, lay in bed. Whatever I fancied. To me it felt luxurious yet natural.
Unfortunately the majority of women do not spend much time with their naked selves and this is usually because they aren’t happy with their bodies. Skin stretches, pounds are added. We all have scars, stretch marks and cellulite. We pick at our flaws and have all wished that we looked different in some way. This stops us from being ok with our physical appearance. We hide from mirrors, say no to pictures and wear bulky clothing to hide our figures. When we aren’t happy with our bodies it affects our confidence and puts our self esteem at an all time low.
I’m very happy to see recently a new representation of women’s bodies in the media. Models like Tess Holiday and Ashley Graham have been making waves with their thick thighs and wider waists, gracing the covers of magazines and launching clothing brands for full figured women. Model agencies like Milk Model Management based in London have added a curvy women roster. Brands like Aerie have stopped retouching their models. Even Mattel has created a new line of Barbie dolls that come in a range of body types.
This form of female representation is still very new. And even though we are slowly starting to see women who look more like us that doesn’t mean we will miraculously feel good about our own bodies. There are many personal reasons why women don’t feel comfortable in their own skin; childhood trauma, pregnancy, abusive relationships, bullying, the list goes on. I wish that I could personally hug every single woman who doesn’t feel comfortable in their skin and remind them that they are so beautiful.
Unfortunately I can’t. But you can!
There is literally no one better qualified to give you the love and support you deserve than you. Three great ways to do this are by spending some quality time with yourself, skin to skin.
It only needs to be for a couple minutes a day. Right after getting out of the shower/bath is my favourite time. Your skin is clean, soft and fresh. You’re glowing under those bathroom lights. Look at yourself. Your whole self. Not just the parts of you that you may or may not want to see. Take yourself in. It may be hard to do at first but I know that if you make it a habit it will get easier each time.
When you apply your creams and moisturizers spend time really feeling your skin. We’re often in a rush and so harsh with ourselves and don’t take the time to go slow. The act of working in the lotion, making intentional contact with your skin can be such a wonderful and loving thing. Your body will really love you for it.
If you’re up for a little more of a challenge, take some nude pictures of yourself for yourself. I cannot stress that point enough. These acts are not for others. You can absolutely send it to your partner later on but during the process don’t make it about anyone else but you. Put on some music and have fun with it, be playful. Or get sensual and steamy. Keep it simple or make it creative. Whatever you like. It’s such a great way to gain confidence in your body and raise your self esteem.
Your body is your one true home. It is the vessel in which your soul lives. No matter where you go, who you are with, how often you move or what happens to you, your body is your first and last home. Treat it with love and respect and it will return the favour.
“We are all born
The greatest tragedy is
Being convinced we are not”